I Blame Adam

Now… I think it’s safe to say that most people have heard the story of Adam and Eve. If not, here’s the premise.

In the book of Genesis, after God created the Earth, He created a man from the Earth (dirt, clay, soil), then breathed into his nostrils, and he became a living being. Then He commanded Adam to work and take care of the Garden of Eden. To cultivate and protect the land. To manage God‘s creation and name the animals in the garden.

When God placed Adam in the garden. He told him he could eat freely from every tree in the garden, except from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. So then, God said that it wasn’t good for a man to be alone, so He caused a deep sleep to come over Adam, then took one of his ribs and made a woman.

So Adam named the woman Eve.

Stick with me. I’m almost there...

So then the serpent came and tempted Eve. He said, "Can it really be that God has said, 'You shall not eat from any tree of the garden?" There was a little bit of back-and-forth, but it still led to the ultimate point that when Eve looked at the tree, and saw that it was good for food, and it was delightful to look at, and to be desired to make one wise and insightful. She took some of its fruit, ate it, then she gave some to her husband, and then he ate it.

Immediately, their eyes were opened. Their awareness increased.

I suggest you read the story for yourself.

So, then God came down, looked for them, but couldn’t find them because they hid themselves.

So then, God called out to Adam and said, "Where are you?" Adam said, "I’m naked, so I hit myself from you." And God said, “Who told you that you were naked? Did you eat from the tree I commanded you not to eat?” Adam said, "It was the woman YOU gave to be with me, she gave me fruit from the tree, and I ate it."

So then, Eve blamed the serpent, saying that he tricked her. Then the Lord cursed the serpent, cursed the ground, and kicked them out of the Garden. This is when sin was born.

Now, some people blame Satan, most people blame Eve, but I BLAME ADAM.

Adam was the man. Adam was the leader of his family and over all life. He was the one responsible. God did not command Eve not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. He commanded Adam. It was Adam‘s job to instruct Eve and be obedient to God‘s command. When God asked Adam whether he had eaten from the tree, Adam blamed Eve.

Brothers and sisters, saints, believers, people of God, the divine order or structure of the family is God, then husband, then wife, then children. Make no mistake, I am not saying that the wife is subservient in the sense of being inferior, controlled, or dominated by her husband. She is not a dog or animal. The Bible never teaches that a woman is lesser than a man, but we do have different roles.

Brothers, you are the leader. You are the one who is responsible for your family‘s well-being. And God will hold you responsible. You are the one who answers to God. When a US Navy ship sinks, they don’t question or blame the XO (the second in command) or the CMC (third in command); they question or blame the CO (the Commanding Officer). The ship is the CO's responsibility.

There will be times when God directs you to do something or commands you; He doesn’t give you all the directions or the full picture, but you must be obedient. He may not tell your wife; he might just tell you. You must be obedient. No matter how hard. No matter how much she kicks and screams, shoot, no matter if she tries to use her special “abilities.” Her charm.

Stay strong. And of course, I’m not saying God doesn’t speak to the wife. Of course he does. He loves your wife just as much as He loves you. But I’m talking about you being obedient, even if your wife doesn’t believe or agree with you. There are times when both of you come together and agree on a plan. Of course, get on the same page as your wife, but I’m talking about leading.

Now, ladies, my sisters, if your husband has proven to be obedient to God‘s word. If your husband has been proven to be full of faith and worthy to be followed, let him lead. Don’t get in the way. Don’t try to control him or the situation. I know it’s hard, but learn to submit to your husband and his leadership. Not submit as if you were your dog, and you must obey your husband‘s command. No! Relinquish the control.

If you find yourself struggling, talk to your God. He understands. Pray and ask God to help you. And if you’re still struggling to trust your husband‘s leadership, because the Bible says to “trust no man,” then trust God. Trust that He loves you, and He’s the one who is leading and the one you are following and obeying. There will be no failure.

Husbands and wives love each other. Love is not the butterflies you feel. It’s not just words. It’s not just sex. The best definition of love is written in 1 Corinthians 13. That is love.

We live in a world that teaches love is love. Love is commitment, etc. Remember, to think, does this love align with what God says love is? Does this love lead to or is obedience? Is it love when a person willingly allows me to sin against God? Does this person really love me if they’re OK with being disobedient? Or if this person is OK with me, allowing God‘s judgment against me?

Learn to communicate, learn to submit to each other, and learn to love each other through it all. Remember, the greatest example that God gave to us is the illustration of how Christ loved His bride, which is the church, and He died for her. That should be our example of love.